is about termination. I began seeing a psychotherapist eight years ago for
sexual abuse issues & marital difficulties. After two years she took
a two year sabbatical. During that two years I periodically & briefly
saw several other counselors to help me cope with a mentally ill daughter.
When I ran into my counselor four years ago I resumed seeing her four-six
times a year. During the last four years I have considered her more a counselor
than a therapist for me, although it was therapeutic. Ive felt for
the last year and a half that I should be working toward termination but
didnt discuss it with her until four months ago. Although she encouraged
me to expand my network of friends & helpful resources I never felt like
she was pushing me to leave. We share similar religious values and views
and shes been a valuable resource, spiritually. . . .
Anyway, I finally talked to her about terminating four months ago & thought
I probably wouldnt see her again. But last week I wanted her input
on an issue with a family member, so I called her. Is it necessary to terminate
a relationship that provides valuable help for me?
Not at all.
the late 1960s, the psychologist Nick Cummings predicted the
of treatmenta model than now rules most psychotherapybefore
anyone even knew what managed care was. As an alternative to that model, Cummings
himself invented a model of psychological care known as focused intermittent
psychotherapy throughout the life-cycle. This model stated that throughout a
persons life there can be times when psychological help may be needed:
leaving home and family for the first time; getting a job or changing jobs;
getting married; having children; mourning deaths; retiring; and so on.
Why, Cummings argued, shouldnt one psychotherapist
follow one person throughout all these events? And the answer, of course,
is Why not? Thats how physicians and dentists and other medical
practitioners conduct their practices. It makes
just as much sense for psychotherapists.
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