I started going through the questions to ask yourself, I was able to answer
each one almost without even thinking. I was travelling to [deleted for
confidentiality] to visit my then boyfriend (now husband) and had taken
about five flights before then without fear. We were going to talk about
getting married when I arrived, but that was never discussed, so I was
disappointed about that. Then, upon my arrival back to the states, I found
out that my Grandmother had passed away while I was gone and this was the
only trip that I had gone on and not visited with her before I left. I think
that explains the terror I experience each time I board a
have read about fear of flying & turbulence. Both were very helpful.
I was never afraid to fly before, nor of turbulence. Now one bump
has me in a white knuckle ride.
Reading your article, it felt as if you were writing directly
to & about me. My last flights (1999 & 2000, 2001) were all tangled
up with negative emotions. 1999 my sister passed, and I had to fly to
[deleted for confidentiality] from [deleted for confidentiality]
where I was living. 2000 my ex-father-in-law passed, and I had to fly in
the wee hours of the morning from [deleted for confidentiality] to
[deleted for confidentiality], while my marriage was on the
fritz. And in 2001 I travelled alone for a vacation to [deleted
for confidentiality] to visit friends, again while my marriage was on
the fritz, and I suspected my ex of having an affair, actually having a woman
in our apartment while I was away. My arrival home after the trip was not
met with a warm greeting with a hugit was cold, and I felt unloved.
Since then I have grounded myself, reasoning that staying on
the ground is safer and the white knuckle ride not worth the aggravation.
I want to get back on a plane, and travel more, and vacation
more. Thank you for your honest & frank discussion of the reality of
turbulence (both good & bad).
years now Ive dealt with severe anxiety prompted by flying. . . . I
used to obsess and panic over the thought of having to fly somewhere,
automatically sabotaging my journey and disregarding all the good things
that could come out of each trip. Your website has been the first one to
acknowledge that most of us (fearful fliers) know the statistics very well,
we might even repeat them over and over again like some sort of mantra and
still it does not change the fact that we remain frightened by a thought.
My fear of flying began with a trip emotionally attached to
a life-changing experience, I was to move to [deleted for
confidentiality] for five months and leave my family for the first time
in my life. Since then every single flight Ive been on has been attached
to something going wrong in my personal life and I strongly believe that
I projected self-doubt and guilt as a fear of flying. I used
to go through the days thinking about how my plane is going to crash and
how Im doomed to die in a plane crash but I am rapidly realizing how
unfounded this fear is.
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