developed a mild addiction to alcohol, and have a severe case of Attention
Deficit Disorder (not hyperactive). I went to see a psychotherapist and she
assured me that 7 hours of therapy would cure me. After about 4 months of
therapy, and really throwing everything into it, there is less control over
the drinking than ever before.
Her reasoning is that no antidepressant or other drug or any behavioral therapy
would help, as both ADD and alcoholism are acquired conditions.
I really believed in what we were doing and had a positive attitude.
But: I have a huge problem with the process of almost brainwashing
me into believing that certain things happened to me as an unborn and during
the birthI am not stupid; those things simply didnt happen. What
is very real, though, is 1) the fact that ADD people are genetically predisposed
to have lower levels of dopamine, adrenaline and sometimes other
neurotransmitters in the brain than other people, which also probably predisposes
them to addictions; and 2) that the constant negative feedback received
throughout my life as a result of being ADD, has left me with a feelings
of worthlessness; and 3) I have very real behavioral problems.
The therapist did not know anything about ADDI had to take her reading
material. . . .
I feel as if I have wasted a lot of time, energy and money on therapy. I
do not believe in the process, unless she is not practicing it correctly.
Should I continue?
From what you say, your so-called therapist
doesnt seem to be practicing much of anything correctlynot even
First of all,
no competent psychotherapist can ever promise anyone that a certain number
of sessions will be a cure for anything. Because psychotherapy
depends so much on the client-psychotherapist
on client motivation, a psychotherapist can speak only in generalities at
best: Its possible that . . . or It
might happen that . . . or No one knows
for sure, but . . .
As for the
brainwashing, common sense and anecdotal evidence tell us that
prenatal experiences can definitely have an effect on infant
development, but it is simply impossible to reconstruct prenatal
experiences with psychotherapy. In genuine psychotherapy, you must come to
terms with your emotional and behavioral life of the present. If constructing
an hypothesis about prenatal and birth traumas helps you accomplish
the psychotherapeutic work, fine. But if not, you should not have such ideas
forced on you by anyone, and especially not by a psychotherapist.
Third, if your
psychotherapist knew nothing about ADD, then she had the ethical obligation
to have said so, upfront. Then you would have had the opportunity to find
someone else, or to continue working with her on an experimental
basis. There really is nothing wrong with experimenting in psychotherapy,
as long as the client agrees to it.
psychological is an acquired conditionfrom prenatal experiences,
through infancy and childhood, and even into adulthoodand only
psychotherapy can get to the core causes of any disorder;
the symptoms but do not cure anything. Still, different persons need different
interventions in different circumstances. It can be possible to get to the
core of alcoholism with psychodynamic psychotherapy, but maybe you personally
treatment with a psychologist who specializes in treating
So it seems that
you have wasted a lot of time, energy and money on this so-called
therapy. Should you continue? Well, ask the question like this:
Should you have terminated at the end of the seventh hour after you were
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