been in treatment for approximately 2½ years. I saw my psychologist,
at first on a twice weekly basis, and I now see him on a weekly basis. I
was very depressed when I first went to see my psychologist. He has been
helping me with PTSD, depression, and anxiety. He has helped me greatly.
Last week he became unexpectedly ill and was
hospitalized. . . .
very distraught. I think I have been crying for days. I always ask my
psychologist if things I do are normal because I like to be normal. So is
it normal for me to be this upset about a non-family member that may die?
I am married and have a child, but I feel so alone.
Of course its normal to care about someone with whom
you have spent the last 2½ years sharing the depths of your inner
said that, I must also add that its now important to realize that your
psychotherapists illnessand your emotional reactions to ithas
become a part of your psychotherapy; therefore, when your psychologist recovers
and returns to practice it will be important to speak about all this openly and
him. (AndGod forbidif he were to die or not return to practice,
then you would need to continue this psychotherapeutic issue with another
Just keep in
mind that the end of psychotherapy is the ability to dissolve your intense
need for another person and to function independently, using your own
You cant get to that point, though, until you first
inner capacity to form normal attachments. Moreover, persons
anxiety often have serious difficulty forming honest and intimate attachments.
So your reactions to this illness are showing you that you are part way to
the ultimate goal. Congratulations.
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